Ep. 16 - Healthy Boundaries For a Healthy Life
In today’s podcast, I’m talking about boundaries and why they are so important to our health.
When we neglect to set healthy boundaries in our lives, our nervous systems also get neglected. And when the nervous system takes a beating day in and day out, our overall health suffers immensely.
In this episode, I share some examples (I apologize now 😆) from my own life of where boundaries were needed and when I did implement them, how one of my health issues improved.
I also share some tips from two books I’ve read recently so tune in to find out more!
Tune into where you listen to podcasts and find Episode 16 of The AWEd Life then come back here and share some of your own boundary stories. 🙌🏼
SHOW NOTES:
Helpful books to help set boundaries:
The Book of Boundaries - Melissa Urban (her website)
How to Do the Work - Dr. Nicole LePera (her website)
Three kinds of boundaries:
Personal space (Physical space, body’s needs/wants, self-care)
Resources (Time, availability)
Mental/Emotional (Our emotions separate from others)
How to communicate a boundary (the example I gave from Chap. 10 in How to Do The Work):
Template:
“I am making some changes so that [insert your intention for your new boundary] and hope you can understand that this is important to me.
I imagine [insert your understanding of their behavior]. When you [insert the problematic behavior], I often feel [insert your feelings], and I understand this is something you may not be aware of.
In the future, [insert what you would or would not like to happen again], if [insert original problematic behavior] happens again, I will [insert how you will respond differently to meet your own need].
Example:
“I am making some changes so that [we can maintain our relationship as I care about you] and hope you can understand that this is important to me.
I imagine [you may be uncomfortable with my new food choices]. When you [consistently comment on what I am or am not eating, I often feel uncomfortable eating around you] and I understand this is something you may not be aware of.
In the future, [I would like to avoid talking about food or food choices altogether]. If [commenting on my food choices] happens again, I will [remove myself from our conversation or the activity we are engaging in.]”
More podcasts about boundaries:
On Purpose with Jay Shetty - “5 Boundaries to Set in Relationships & 3 Ways to Use Them Effectively”
We CAn Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle : BOUNDARIES: Are too few (or too many) why we stay stuck?
or
How to Set & Hold Boundaries with Melissa Urban
The Adult Chair - Summer Series: Setting Healthy Boundaries
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